Cash is a noteworthy problem in any marriage. It can be particularly sticky in a remarriage.
It doesn't need to be that way, says Patricia Schiff Estess, creator of Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage. A veteran money essayist and manager from New York, she's been cheerfully remarried over 20 years. Her recommendation is to go up against the financial parts of your new life head-on and during the beginning of the relationship. That way, you can start a new life based on trust and happiness.
Marriage is an association of adoration and friendship, and financial matters speak to only one piece of that association. In case you're willing to attempt, you can put cash issues in their place and get on with making a cheerful life together.
Put Your Cards on the Table
Impart all your money related data to one another. In case you decide to keep secrets now be ready for your relationship to pay for it later. As excruciating as it can be, full exposure is the best approach.
Be particular and careful. Talk about what you spend on your children every month - both formal youngster backing and the casual sum you spend on endowments, telephone calls, piano lessons or whatever.
Try not to skip or overlook subjects that make you squirm. Understand that even apparently clear subjects can raise profoundly intense subject matters. It's very basic for no less than one companion to convey a lot of obligation to a second marriage; a critical Visa parity to pay off, for instance.
Once you've discussed actualities, it's simpler to share emotions about cash related issues and make sense of how you're going to handle funds as a crew. Keep in mind that spouses and wives who feel they have equivalent control over how cash is spent have a more peaceful relationship.
Try and go for the "Pot System"
To start with the matters decide who pays for what and through which account is the payment being made. Try and adopt the "pot framework." Here's the means by which it works:
The one-pot framework includes putting all the family's records - checking, reserve funds, ventures, everything - in both names.
The two-pot framework partitions accounts into "yours account" and "mine account" - and once in a while turns out equally. This alternative works for the individuals who are resolved about taking care of their own funds and who may be more satisfied not justifying their choices about individual consumptions. Couples who settle on this have a tendency to be better-off or have solid requirements for individual independence. In any case, look for issues when there's an imbalance in pay.
The three-pot framework includes a "your" record, a "mine" record, and the third one as "our" record. This is the most prevalent course of action and the one favoured by most specialists. It can work one of two ways:
You pool all assets first for joint costs, for example, lodging, nourishment, family unit and auto costs, then pull back cash for individual records.
You each submit pay checks into the individual accounts, and then pay a rate into the shared service.
Planning is practically the same as with the first marriage, aside from kid backing and provision (or support). This can be dubious landscape. At the point when managing such matters, stay with the truths, hear one another out, attempt to comprehend what sentiments are provoking your accomplice's conduct, and do your best not to intrude on, disparagement, assault or shout. On the off chance that you have an issue with your life partner's activities, have a go at asking delicately, why are they doing this? If your discussion goes and results in a sticking point or feelings run high, maybe a guide or facilitator can offer you some assistance with walking through the issues.
The best way to a successful marriage is to make all the financial decision together. Be it paying of electricity bills or telephone bills make sure that both of you have a say in it.