Just like every smooth road has bumps and speed-breakers on it, every marital couple goes through ups and downs. The notion of ‘happily ever after’ is applicable only to fairy tales and comics as in reality every relationship requires effort. A happy married life requires two mature individuals whose love for each other out-shadows any conflict. While some marital conflicts arise because of simple monotony or lack of communication, others are caused by serious factors such as cheating, secret affairs, etc. It is very important to solve the marital conflicts and develop healthy relationships before it’s too late. Read on to find answers to your conflicting marriage.
The most important factor for a healthy relationship is healthy communication. Communicate about your feelings, communicate about a mishap, communicate about your goals, communicate about a cute puppy you saw in a passing-by car- communicate just about anything and everything. This helps in avoiding misunderstandings and conflict.
Break the pattern
Break the monotony and go out of your way to surprise your partner by maybe waking him/her up to a bed tea or planning a candlelight dinner. Everyone loves the feeling of being special and extraordinary to someone, make them realize that.
Small but cute gestures
It is not necessary that you spend dollars on a lavish three course meal or that expensive diamond ring to make your partner happy. When it comes to love, small and cute gestures like leaving a note on the bathroom mirror or sending a love text in the middle of the work are always cherished more than anything. Don’t forget to say to your spouse the three magical words “I love you”.
The bravest thing a person can do is to let go of a bad memory like it never happened. Forgive your partners small mistakes but don’t forget to communicate to them about their inadequacies once in a while.
Avoid the feelings of jealousy and envy
Realize that a person is your husband/wife because this is where he truly belongs. Don’t jump to conclusions because of the evil feelings like jealousy, rivalry, etc. Be positive about your relationship. Spend some quality time together and be honest about what you feel.
Do not touch upon the past lives of each other
The reason why something is called “past” is because it belongs there. The moment you tie the knot is the moment when you start a new life together. Touching upon each other’s past lives is a common and a bad habit which leads to misconceptions, lying and fallacy. Why try to bring back the old when you have so much to look forward to?
Sex and physical intimacy are what keep a relationship going. Make love and embrace the beauty of your partner. Realize what truly turns on you and your hubby/wife and make him/her feel celebrated and loved. Remember, lovers are not perfect but their love is.
Even after all your efforts, caring and love, if your partner fails to realize your worth and disrespects your feelings, then realize that it may be the high time to put a full stop to your relationship. Do not give in to the behaviours of a narcissist and dominating partner. Some marital conflicts and quarrels take a toll on your overall well-being and under such situations divorce is the only way out.