Though considered to be a cruel act in the marriages of Hindu custom, dowry is still practised widely to satisfy the family needs which also accounts for the financial reserve. Dowry helps in managing the marriage life with sophisticated goods and comfort. In India dowry systems has got different faces which clearly shows the injustice done to women even in this modern era. Although they push the bride’s family to a critical position of getting debuts and loans to make the marriage successful, dowry acts as a safety measure by making the bride independent from her husband and in-laws.
Equality among children
If a son can inherit the property from his father then the daughter must be paid equally to manage her family needs when she enters into her husband’s family. The husband is responsible for managing the expenditures through a well-planned financial thought pattern.
When do they start?
In India, dowry has different forms by which it reaches the groom’s family. Once the wedding is realized the next question that pops up in the queue is “what are you going to do for the bride?” .This question brings in anxiety to the bride’s family though it is obvious in Indian marriages.
Expectations of South Indian marriages
In case of South India, the groom’s family demand more of jewels and ornaments than on money. This is mainly demanded to satisfy the greed of groom’s family and to show off their status in the society. Then they ask for cars and bikes along with basic amenities of utensils, furniture, home appliances and sometimes even groceries to start a new life. In addition, ready cash is also given to exhibit the skills of the bride in managing money.
Expectations of North Indian marriages
With respect to North Indian marriages, they expect more of money ranging from few thousands to lakhs and even crores in high class marriages. Usually the range of cash is fixed with importance given to the groom’s occupation and qualification. His status in the society is also considered. Apart from these, the reception arrangements and wedding day feast must be organised by the bride’s family. The groom’s family also demand home-made sweets to be distributed to their relatives.
Why is dowry a necessity?
For an auspicious ritual to take place dowry is made as a prior necessity by default. In some circumstances, though the groom’s family are kind enough to drop the idea of getting dowry, the society has made it a compulsion for the bride’s family to send the bride along with the dowry. For a newly married couple, dowry is considered to be a part of their personal finance that can be utilized at times of financial crisis. It acts as a financial reserve to help in the improvement of their status in the society.
Ways to manage the family needs
The newlywed might be unaware of managing money to fulfil the family needs. It becomes crucial if they are not backed by a financial reserve. This helps them to figure out a financial thought pattern along with the available resources. But sometimes dowry poses a serious threat to the bride’s family to manage their debuts. Henceforth dowry is not encouraged.