In our society the parents see their children with a hope for looking after them in old age. Their feelings revolve around growing of the child, leaving home going for higher studies, getting married, setting up their own families and lastly becoming the parents in laws.
But when a son is married, a new bride comes and become the part of your family. The same thing happens with your daughter also. You see her growing, going to school, graduating, joining a job and finally getting married to a boy (groom) who takes her away and make her part of his own family. Thus, the marriage relationship is nothing but starting a life in other family, other than the family of birth. As a perfect in laws you need to accept and assimilate the new bride in your family and culture. Here are a few words of advice that you may use.
No Starring In Child Life
You have seen the child since birth and in a matured stage of marriage. When the new bride has come, you need to accept her with open heart and let her manage the things of your child’s life. It is also possible that your child may fear from you or due to immense respect, may not be revealing the feelings of his own. But, he might be very open to his spouse and will like to lead his rest of life according to his will and happiness. If you treat the child, like you cared in the childhood, both the partners may feel interference in life. See, the changes happening in the family and enjoy them.
Most of the parents in laws feel insecure after a new bride comes to their family. This fact is applicable mainly to women who feel that their position or importance is being taken over by their daughter in laws. This is the reason, they become (sometimes) unkind and situations in the family changes. However, the truth is that the new bride has come in your family to add something. Your most of the tensions and worries will be shared and automatically reduced to a great extent, if you allow her to take the responsibility of the family. If you do this, your daughter in law will not face any problem in dealing with in laws.
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Learn to Be Disagree Graciously
The best way to show your love to children-in-law is be gracious even when you are not agree on some issues and points. The best method is to keep quite. When you find the well face of your children or grandchildren is at stake, you must suggest your children-in-laws in most convincing ways. The best way to deal with them is to sit with them and express the feelings of your heart. Don’t try to impose your judgment on them, rather ask their suggestions. The combination of thinking may result in very good idea for all. Be proud of thinking of your children and let them make independent decisions. This will result in the best relationships.