Love is not finding the right partner, rather, being the right one. It’s not finding the faults, rather ignoring the imperfections and loving perfectly. There is nothing great than realizing as- made for each other. The happy couple is not the perfect one, rather they are two diverse and different persons complementing each other and respecting the differences. Love is created, it’s not expected, and it’s delivered rather. The happiest couples love to compromise and take the responsibility. Let’s have the glance on some perfect acts of happy couples, that what do they do to remain happy-
1. Become good friends really-
It’s mandatory to be friends initially, rather than becoming the husband and wife. They make sure that the bond of friendship always remains alive to cheer and support each other, laugh and have fun, just like the friends do. They never make the husband wife relationship without the friendship, as the former is likely to get fall, but the later supports the relationship.
2. Maintain a perfect physical intimacy-
The impact of perfect touching includes the non sexual touches, like as affectionate gestures and gentle words. The affection and intimacy of love has been proved to have the longer lasting impacts. Non-sexual intimacy gestures are-
Kiss on the forehead and the cheeks
Hug for 30 seconds- helps to release the oxytocin, which reduces the stress
Expressing love, by the way of appreciation and praising
Touching and cuddling of hands while walking
Softly speaking in the ear
Snuggling on a sofa, while watching a movie, etc.
Sex is important, great and fun! But if your only place where both display intimacy is by getting naked in your bedroom, you probably have to change a few things in your marriage.
3. Main motto- solve the problem, no arguments and no battles-
It’s not about winning the arguments, rather about winning the hearts. The former leads to the more of violence in the relationships, and hurts both the partners, so never indulge into the long heated discussions, where the minds are quite tempted to put the other person down. The egoistic behaviors are bone of contention among them actually.
4. Overcome monotony- gives surprises-
The actual love thrives primarily on taking the responsibility of the happiness of the partner. They know how to break the monotony and ultimately they keep on giving the pleasant surprises to each other. They make a significant effort to create a spark when relationships get monotonous and dull.
5. Providing personal space to the partner-
Never strangle your partner by letting them not to breathe. Good couples always make sure that their partner has some good space where they can intimate, catch up with their family; pursue a hobby or hangout with the friends... It’s never ever about being more possessive and the dependent.
6. Sharing the common goals together-
Getting deeply connected with a spouse gets easy when they have goals together and that’s what happy couples make sure. They enjoy the journey of pursuing their goals together rather than cry or daydream about the end result. And that brings me to the next point.
7. They practice presence of mind-
Happy couples are the different ones; they don’t yell into the arguments and lose focus. They never let their emotions rule them. In addition, the blame, which weakens the relationship, is never in between them. Rather they meditate, adopt the healthy life style and stay stress free. They make the habit of thinking before the speaking.
8. Never play the blame game-
Having goals together means sharing responsibilities & workloads. Sometimes, one of the couple may go wrong. After all, we are all human, and we make mistakes. But happy couples don’t blast their spouse by blaming them for a mistake. They accept the situation and focus on what needs to be done. They make sure that they don’t put their spouse down, at any cost. They gently make the other aware of their mistake only if there’s an important lesson to be learnt.
9. They love themselves first-
The main source of happiness are you only, it’s not the relationship from where you seek the happiness. Relationships are never the source of happiness or the unhappiness. But you are! The external solution (marriage) to an internal problem (their unhappiness) is not the right way.
10. They accept each other-
It’s universally acknowledged that if you dislike something in your spouse, it’s your perspective, not the defect of your spouse. Moreover, the happy couples don’t change their partners, rather they try to fill the gap and achieve happiness from the relationship.
11. They believe in give and take policy-
If you give respect, love, full attention then you receive the same. On the contrary, if you disrespect your partner and exaggerate each and every mistake or the little thing, then you are supposed to get the negative Reponses from your spouse.
12. They are realistic
Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can. – Unknown
Happy couples are extremely practical with realistic expectations. They don’t day dream a fantasy novel-romance and later get disappointed because they never received it. They focus on leading a memorable journey of life together, while learning about life and love, rather than getting upset that their lover proposed in a restaurant and not on a hilltop with lots of fog around.