Divorce simply terminates the married life forever so that the husband and wife can’t live as a couple for any purpose. In most of the cases, the seekers of divorce desperately want it because they want to get rid of the daily tussles with their spouse and thus have some peace in personal life. While divorce could be a passage to relief, sometimes the conditions are not as simple as these appear. Seeking divorce could be easy for the husband and wife but this could be cruel and complex for the father and mother!
Never let your child suffer after your divorce
Sometimes the children act as the holders of the marital relation while in some unfortunate cases, the separation of the father and mother gets inevitable. After the separation, they still remain as the parents and this simply cannot be refused. Each of the parents wants their right over the child out of their emotional affinities that are very deep. But the implications of divorce generate the ripples and tussles yet again; this time over the issues such as the custody, education, upbringing and nurturing. As the child grows, these issues remain and both the divorced individuals remain in conflict. It is necessary to have the objective guidelines set for each so that the conflict situations are reduced and child never has to suffer in any manner; as all his/her rights must prevail.
Rely on the counsels of the experts
Today, there are many agencies that offer to intervene as the experts in such cases and develop the reconciliation conditions. Often the stands taken by the divorced individuals are their first experiences as they have never undergone such conditions before. They therefore do not know about the actual implications that would entail and what harm this could do to the child. Remaining unaware, there could be more loss than the gain; & this condition is definitely not desirable by both of them. The expert counselors recommend the good middle path that may appear as sometimes skewed. There could be recommendation of the custody with the mother if the child is nascent while there could also be the recommendation of the custody with father if his better finances assure good education and upbringing of the child.
Engaging in tussles could be detrimental for the child!
The decision to reach a settlement through the court could not be called as a faulty one. Throughout the world, the courts have been deciding such cases post-divorce in consonance with the principles of better nurturing of the child. The same conditions and implications are analyzed in a delicate manner before the decision is served by the court. However, such a process is very time consuming as there are cases piled up there and one can’t expect to have the instant justice served. Further, it requires finances pooling due to hiring of the advocates to represent one’s cause and demand. Also, the tussle factor remains present inevitably and this creates unsought delays. The child is the only one who suffers in all this process & none of the separated parents would like this to happen.
The best method is therefore to have a solution through mutual settlement and arrive at a consensus rather than engaging in conflict every now and then.