You will not find a couple who never faced difficulties or tough times in marriage. You read the holy books and stories of great personalities and even Gods, they all faced up and downs in the marriage. But, they did not part ways. They remained united in all walks of life. The same lesson you also must learn; whatever the circumstances arise your ultimate endeavour must to save the marriage. If your husband is not happy with you and has made up his mind then also, your efforts will melt his heart.
Here are a few ways by which you may convince your husband not to have divorce.
Be Emotionally Valuable
You may not know what your husband thinks, but you may influence his thinking by being emotionally valuable to him. If you develop this quality, your husband will find it difficult to spend a single second without you. You are the sentimental gift for him and it is your responsibility to be valuable and precious than anything else. The feelings developed emotionally are more important than material things like income etc. After parting ways your husband may find other person who is more emotionally valuable to him. So, if you become that valuable, you will drastically reduce the emotional distances and save your marriage.
Exhibit the Skills He Expects
You know what your husband expects from you. If you want to be in a happy marriage and turn your husband’s decision about divorce; you need to exhibit the required skills. These may be talking to him sympathetically, reaching to any decision by mutual love and talk, learn to forget and forgive (in case of anger) for strong relationship, extend positive support and care when in need.
Don’t Repeat the Same Message
Your husband have been listening many messages from you and might be habituated to listen them by now. If you keep on repeating the same messages (though from your heart), you are not going to get enough attention from him. So, you need to change the messages and way of communicating those messages. Think from his perspectives too and be cooperative. It does not mean that you support his decision of taking divorce. But, what it meant that you try to win his trust. Give more access in your heat to your husband.
Change Your Actions
One of the most important suggestions is that instead of pleading verbally your husband not to think about the dreading word ‘divorce’, change your negative actions into positive ones. Have patience, learn from your culture and follow your husband to engage and find his reactions. Never argue with him or try to prove him wrong. It may backfire and make the things worse. Give him time to think of his own. Bring his heart closer to you, hear him and value the closeness you shared with him. Bring him to the point by your positive actions. You freely express him that his happiness is important for you. Your best efforts will bring the lost relationship on a moving track.