Like any other state in India, Haryana also takes pride in its customs based on Vedic Aryans traditions. Haryanvi Marriages are an elaborate affair which starts a month before the actual wedding ceremony. There are several rituals including following:
Rituals Prior to Wedding
The rituals prior to wedding start with ‘Sagai’ or engagement ceremony in wedding in Haryana. It is followed by ‘Anguthi Pahanana’ in which wedding ring is presented to the bride by groom. Later, one month before the wedding, bride and the groom’s maternal uncles are invited in a ritual called ‘Bhat nutana.’ Then, Lord Ganesha is worshipped by both the families in ‘Ban baihana’ ritual. Further, ghee, turmeric and grounded barley paste is used by the bride's family as a fairness cream in ritual known as the ‘Pithi lagana.’ After this, in ‘Banori’ ritual, the groom and the bride are served meal at the house of priest. Later, several rituals known as Khichai, Ratijka, Mehndi lagana and Chak Puja are carried out till ‘Barat nikasi’, in which groom departs for the wedding venue by riding on a horse with vibrant decorations. On this occasion, groom’s dress contains a long jacket known as sherwani over a churidar and turban having a brooch. With this, the wedding procession marches while the participants dance in front on rhythms played on the ‘dholak.’
Rituals in Wedding
During the wedding, various rituals including Seha, Chawal chadhana, Toran and Varmala take place. These are followed by arti, hathlewa, gajoa and satphere take place during which the couple make seven encirclements of the holy fire.
The father of the bride gives his daughter away in wedding to groom by symbolic pouring of pure water. The vows of alliance and loyalty are taken by reciting of hymns from vedas followed by ritual known as Thapa lagana.
Rituals after the Wedding
Several rituals after the marriage are performed, which include Kanwar Kaleva, Rangbari and Samthui. The family of the bride gives gifts to groom’s relatives in ritual called Dat. This is followed by Jhunwari ritual.
One of the important ritual invoking strong emotions is called ‘Vidai’ or when farewell of bride from her parent’s house takes place and leaves for house of her husband. This is followed by a tradition known as ‘Kanka Doraa’ or thread tying ceremony. It is followed by the ‘Dwar Rukai’ ritual at groom’s house where couple is stopped by aunt and sisters of the groom and allowed to enter only after earthen pot is destroyed on ground. After this, ‘Griha Pravesh’ or home entering ritual is performed where couple is welcomed by mother-in-law with Aarti. The bride puts her right foot forward with vermilion powder as mark of best future. The beginning of happy marriage for future at her new house is denoted by kicking the vessel filled with rice and coins by her feet which are covered with the red paste. This is followed by ‘Muh Dikhai’ ritual in which members of new family come to familiarize with the bride and bestow her with unique wedding favors gifts and love.