Human relations are complex and intricate. Every relation requires deep nurturing so that it continues to bloom in the best manners and becomes eligible to deliver the goodness to the new generation of relations that are ready for their due. This is an eternal cycle and the humans have been bestowed the responsibility to take it forward with all the dedication and passionate caring. We have been successful broadly; of course sparing some instances where the relations fail. Breakdown of the marriage is common and the causes have been many. Mutual incompatibilities are mainly responsible! However, these incompatibilities are underpinned by different circumstances and personal attributes like ego and intolerance among others. These are resulting into separation of husband and wife who then find difficulty in leading a post-divorce life.
Is divorce really necessary – think about the implications!
Actually, the intolerance and ego are very much driven by the selfish behaviors that get more buoyant when the person is in comfort of the relations and enjoying all the goodness from those relations. In such a life scenario, the individual often fails to recognize the importance of the same relationships and gets aggressive through his bad attributes. Riding on the personal egos and allied intolerance, divorce appears to be the best option towards relief. Apart from ego, other behavioral aberrations like being short tempered or domineering type also makes the personality as undesirable by the other life partner who feels as being over powered. The best passages as per the relationship counselors are that of reconciliations and resurrections through behavior modifications. If this is possible then the divorce condition can be avoided and the post-divorce implications also.
Post-divorce – a big void waits for the lonely individual
The post-divorce time is a big void and when the maze of troubles settles down from the mind and heart, the person finds the time all the more difficult. This happens because in spite of all the relationship difficulties, the fundamental essence of the couple relationship acts as a great support for both. Unfortunately both fail to realize this support mechanism that has been offered to them through the pious institution of marriage. Finding this support missing post-divorce, the person gets gloomy and feels unescorted. This could be a determining condition and some may even slip into depression; if they fail to get some quality alternative support. In the current world, less of the support mechanisms are available outside the fundamental relations like the marriage or parents. The presence of alternative support structures has therefore got diminished.
Keep the inspiration alive post-divorce
Post-divorce could therefore be more of a pathetic condition for the individual rather than a long term relief. Relationship counseling should be sought at least once by the couples who have decided for divorce as the only way out. The counselor would guide them in the objective manner so that resurrections are achieved. For those who have already separated, it is always better to regenerate the aims and initiatives so as to keep the inspiration alive within. This would serve to offer the support as also the much needed solace at heart and soul.