Wedding is the determining milestone of life and also brings with it the notable marital bliss and moments of intimacy that are offered as the unmatched gifts from the house of god. We all therefore, as we grow young cherish the thought of getting married and thus live the goodness. The social customs and cultural evolutions have allowed for the wedding custom to be adhered through a chain of parental obligations. Our individual fancies and likes also serve to make the complementarities that culminate into the wedding.
However, inspite of all the dedication and spiritual authenticities attached to the wedding occasion, many of us suffer from the lacunae and voids in marital bliss and the relation emerges out to be an inconsistent or incomplete one. A marriage counselor could be of vital help in such cases as he being a professional is well trained in the task of making the reconciliations and resurrections through proper patching up. However, it is essential to approach a right counselor else it could be of no use and the despair could get further accumulated. Here are the tips to consider while choosing a wise marriage counselor.
Look out for recommendations
It is essential to note that marriage counselor in spite of being a professional should not act like one. This is the demanded attribute of his service orientation and somewhat paradoxical also! Seldom does a counselor canvass like such. So how to find the right one? The best way to choose such counselor is to look out for the recommendations and listing at the authentic destinations. The seeker should not be guided by the flamboyant marketing alone. Peer reviews could be good and the seeker could have an intimate talk with a close friend to find a good name for assistance.
A human approach by the counselor
The bearing of a good choice could be as vital as ‘result’ or ‘no result’! The result is secured when the counselor actually is able to read the couple life and all the intricacies and irritants clearly with an element of human perception. This is no looking glass theory! Unless this analysis is properly done, the good counsel could not emerge for the couple. Often the reasons for the disturbed marriage are very trivial but the ego concerns are high enough. This presents the sticky situation and these are also the most difficult cases to be handled; for the ego needs to be recalled by both husband and wife. Many times the ego is found to be occluding the love to generate the ripples! The counselor needs to be innovative in offering the right path.
The counselor should be culturally resonant
Marriages are generic organic mixes that contain lots of culture attributes, emotions and ego and love of course. Unless the marriage counselor is aware of the interplays, he could not offer the solution. The cultural functions, if these are acting as the irritants need to be sorted. An expert American counselor could not be as useful for offering advice to a Chinese couple and vice versa.