It is sad, but true, that talking about sex directly is still considered to be a taboo and as a result, most of the couples take the decision to get married, without having any about how their sexual life after marriage would be. The couple may be in love and have the same plans for the future, but of the intimacy between the husband and the wife is missing, and then the future of the marriage becomes doubtful.
Some of the important questions, relating to sex, which every couple must discuss with each other before taking the decision about marriage are as follows:
What Is the Upper Limit of Intimacy
It is very easy to overboard with intimacy. It is common for the couples to watch each other perform various personal acts like peeing in the bathroom, hair removal, etc. While some people consider this as a mark of mutual understanding and openness between the couples, there are certain people who may be completely uncomfortable with it and would want lines to be drawn, so that both of them can get some privacy in their personal life. If you want that after marriage your compatibility with your partner does not get affected by these silly acts, then you need to discuss the limits of the same before marriage.
What Physical Attributes Matter The Most To Your Partner
Before almost everyone says that no matter how much weight the other person may gain or lose, or how they may start to look after some time, they will always love their spouse with all their heart. This may sound romantic and perfect, but in the real world, it does not work. There are certain aspects of a person’s physical appearance which matter a lot to an individual and it is through these aspects only, the level of attraction between two people gets decided. Therefore, if you think that you will have a problem if your partner gains weight after marriage, it is best to inform the other person about this fetish of yours before marriage, so that if he or she feels that keeping their weight in check would be difficult for them, they can accordingly take the decision on marriage or else spend all your life living a compromise and regretting the marriage decision.
Discussing Personal Stuff with Friends
Another important question that you ask your partner before deciding to marry him or her or not is what is their feeling about discussing personal problems with friends and family. Would they be okay if you talk about your fights or bedroom secrets with your close friends, in a bid to vent out your frustrations and get constructive solutions for the same, or not. If these discussions are important to you, and your partner does not agree to them, you two might be headed for a doomed relationship. Therefore, know early whether you will be given the freedom to handle your problems and frustrations in a manner you think right or not.
Besides, the above points, in case you have any specific sexual habits which you would like to continue after marriage, you must discuss about the same with your partner.