Wedding ceremony here in India is decorated by whole range of genre elements and customary attributes. The old age traditions have been kept alive with full dedication and these contribute to the development of the fervor. Indian marriage is segmented into distinct components and each offers its significant value. The Vidaai ceremony is one custom that takes place in the culminating part of the wedding ceremony. This marks the ‘seeing off’ the bride as she leaves her father’s house for the good and prosperous journey of the married life with her husband and in laws.
Winning the bride – the Vidaai is integral!
In India, the combined family is still a dominant norm and while more of the nucleated homes are getting established, the concept of ‘one family’ has never gone weak! The wedding invites this concept again with the full appeal and thus the resonance with the allied traditions. Actually, there is an intrinsic relation between the ‘one family’ value and the Vidaai custom of the marriage. It all starts with the grand ‘baraat’ that is led by the groom together will all the guests, friends and his family members. There is a royal element attached with it and a sense prevails whereby the groom proceeds to win her lady for ever. This is the charm concept! The Indian groom still therefore loves to ride the royal horse in his pursuit! The lady after committing to all the promises and consenting to the proposals offered to her finally gets ready to be accompanied by her husband. This is time for Vidaai and an emotional appeal is built up where the parents and siblings and all the close guests express their love and the inability to extend this parting! Vidaai ceremony is therefore marked by waves of emotions that flow from all the directions and converge at the bride who leaves for the new union.
The Vidaai customs
Amid all these emotions brimming, the regional customs and religious cultural elements rule high and offer the solace and ambits to live the occasion in all aspects. The emotions reach the zenith when rasms (traditions) like ‘annvarsha’ are re lived by the bride and her family. The bride leaving for her new home and life showers the grains with her hand and thus signifies that the good fortune would continue to reside in this house even after she leaves. Conversely, the bride also lives another custom when she carries the holy book (Gita/Quran) at her head and finally walks out of her parents’ home. This signifies that she is leaving with the best knowledge and spirits and with a pious mind to make her new home full and prosperous! Such customs invite the mammoth value to the Vidaai ceremony and make it wholesome and fitting component of the entire wedding.
Inviting the mixed feel
The bride finally leaves with her in laws as the baraat returns together with all the guests. It should be stated that Vidaai as a custom offers the mixed feel and fervour whereby the parents of the bride feel good for having fulfilled their heavenly obligation of ‘kanya daan’ and at the same time they get sad at parting with their daughter whom they have escorted till this moment in all walks of life! They also feel contented that their daughter is now leaning for the fulsome life with a fitting partner!