The relationship of husband and wife is very intricate and full of complexities. While there is heavenly love between you, it doesn't mean that there is no difference of opinions. There happen the circumstances when both of you fight and argue but it does not mean that love should decrease or reduce.
It happens many times that when you argue, you reveal your inner feelings which otherwise doesn’t get revealed. It may be the great time when both of you to keep your ears and eyes open to understand each other, eliminate the differences and proceed towards better, healthy and smooth relationship leaving nil scope for future fights and staying together in pleasant ways.
Here are a few tips that would guide you to fight less and under more your spouse.
Keep Quiet and Reply Politely
If you sense that your partner is angry for some reason, don’t be in a hurry to reply his/her every sentence; rather keep quiet and reply politely and in a humorous manner. Keep your emotions and feelings controlled to maximum level. The words hurt more than the deeds. So, be extra polite when your spouse is angry; remember you are going to win the heart of your spouse and will lose nothing.
Own up the Mistake
It is difficult for any person for own up his/her mistake and especially when he/she is not at the fault. But, remember saying sorry does not mean that you are at fault with your partner, it means that how respectfully honour the relations as well as emotions of the spouse. It may be possible your spouse gets cool down and loves you more than before. It is the medicine to keep your relationship stronger.
Learn to Forget and Forgive
See, if you are angry with your partner and hurt him/her for any reason; you are hurting yourself. Your spouse is the part of your heart. The difference between both you is not the war that you must win. Learn to forget the shortcomings and win the heart by forgiving the mistakes. Be sure that even if you fight clean with your spouse, you are actually looser. If you forgive, your spouse will salvage his/her self-respect which must for every human being and a marriage relationship.
Spend Quality Time Together
One of the secret reasons for fight among the spouse these days is that you don’t have time for each other due to various tasks of office and home. In modern times, the man and women are also running themselves like machines and on the similar footings you find very little time to spend your emotions. It is quite necessary that both of you should spend some quality time together and have clear communication on all the issues. You must discuss your achievements as well as shortcomings alike and ask the help of your spouse in overcoming that. The issues may be related to anything such as money matters, financial goals, managing money, bills, debts etc. On the weekends, Sundays or holidays you need to take long breaks and go for honeymooning again. Your marital ties will flourish for ever.
Give Your Spouse Enough Space
Never be over demanding and over possessive of your spouse. When your partner is tired or busy in some necessary project, let him take rest or finish the project (as the case may be). When he/she is free, he is bound to come back to you only. Further, don’t accumulate the issues and open all at a time. Never be a roaring canon; rather be soothing to your spouse. It is must for building a healthy relationship with your spouse.