Any Sikh male who has been initiated into the Khalsa is referred to as a Singh which means Lion and similarly, any female who has been initiated into the Khalsa is given the title of Kaur, which means princess. Once these men and women have been initiated into the Khalsa, they are from then on commonly referred to as Amritdhari, which means people who have taken the Amrit.
Wedding Of An Amritdhari
The wedding ceremony of an Amritdhari is not very different from any other Sikh wedding. Almost all the rituals performed at a Sikh wedding are also followed and performed at the wedding of an Amritdhari. However, one of the biggest and the most glaring difference between the marriage ceremonies of a Sikh wedding and an Amritdhari wedding is that at an Amritdhari’s wedding there is no pomp and show present. These weddings are done on a smaller scale and concentrate more on the spiritual aspects of the wedding, rather than on glamour and grandeur.
Some of the key differences between the two forms of Sikh weddings are discussed below:
No Pre wedding Ceremonies
Unlike a normal Sikh wedding, where numerous pre wedding functions are held like engagement, Haldi, Sangeet, etc., an Amritdhari’s wedding does not waste any money on any of these frolic functions. Once the marriage date has been fixed, the couple directly gets married through an Anand Karaj ceremony held at a Gurudwara. All the wedding rituals which happen during the Anand Karaj remain the same with Ragis singing hymns, Ardaas being offered and the couple tying the knot in front of Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji.
No Grand Dresses And Jewellery
Another major point of difference between a normal Sikh wedding and the wedding of an Amritdhari is that neither the bride nor the groom spends any extravagant amounts of money in getting their wedding dresses, jewellery and makeup done. The couple dresses up in a very simple salwar kameez and performs the Anand Karaj ceremony in front of Guru Granth Sahib Ji where they make the commitment to love and respect each other for life.
No Post wedding Reception Party
Post wedding reception parties are a major part of a Sikh wedding. It is at these parties that a lot of singing, dancing, lavish eating and drinking and exchange of gifts is done. However, in case of the wedding of an Amritdhari, all this is skipped and the families of both the bride and the groom come together and may either settle for a simple family dinner or may organize a simple Kirtan ceremony.
An Amritdhari is one person who has vowed to complete his or her spiritual mission and therefore, they are not supposed to get attracted or lured by the worldly pleasures. They need to be able to take the higher and more spiritual path in every aspect of their life and therefore, even when getting married, these Amritdharis need to know that their wedding is more about their spiritual union with their partner and not about any pomp and show. Hence their wedding ceremonies tend to be simple and divine.